A History of “Mrs.”

September 14, 2009

This month’s featured project is weddings and in keeping with that I want to talk with you about the history of Mrs.

First let me give a big hand-clap to my second oldest daughter Clarissa for introducing me to Wikipedia. I love Wikipedia it has information about the smallest thing to huge in your face items. I can always find the information that I need on Wikipedia, now whether the information is true and accurate or not, I have not researched, all I know is that it is always available and it sounds right!!

Based on my resources Mrs is an “English honorific” and it is used for married women when no other title is available, like we need more titles. On the surface that sounds very demeaning, however it is not. It is meant to bestow honor, respect, admiration and social superiority. Too bad writing or stating the title Mrs before your name has been reduced to mean “ugh your married!!!” or as a confession for something that you did wrong as in – “when their lips parts, heart racing and thoughts scrambled she utters “Im married”.

I rarely hear, or read women using Mrs before their names anymore. I began using Ms before Joseph and I married. For me it meant, an independent woman. I was college educated, career oriented and independent. Ms seemed a good fit for my lifestyle at the time. Wikipedia says that Ms is used when women don’t want to state their marital status. I never thought of it like that, but now that I am putting some thought to it – I am proud to be Mrs. There is honor in being Mrs – I can state loud and clear “I am Mrs. Lauretta Codrington” there now I said it!!! I feel so free, so light, it is like a huge weight has been lifted from my shoulders. Ladies you have to try it, it is such a wonderful feeling. “Huh, what did you say….” “How could I be Mrs. Lauretta Codrington? I am not married to myself you say.” “What do you mean Mrs Lauretta Codrington is not right?” “What is right?” “Mrs. Joseph Codrington?” “But my name is not ‘Joseph’ it is ‘Lauretta’”. Oh I get it… the honor comes from being Mrs. Joseph Codrington, not Mrs. Lauretta Codrington. How silly of me.

Ladies, don’t you just love it when older men call you “Miss”.


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